Introverted? Shy? How the World Misperceives Us

Posted on March 24, 2012 by

As a child, I was very introverted and quite shy.  I had friends, but generally preferred spending time with one or two of them at a time. When in large groups such as Cub Scouts or less-structured social events, I generally felt out of place. I remained on the periphery and honed my observation skills. It seemed everyone else was aware of a secret set of rules for social interaction. I didn’t really know what to do. (To read more, click here.

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How Business Hiring Practices Exclude Introverts

Posted on March 10, 2012 by

Do you know that some companies screen out introverts in the hiring process?

Recently, Adam, an 18-year-old college freshman went into a major electronics retailer. Looking for a job, he asked to speak with the manager. In just a few brief moments, Adam explained he is very interested in electronics, that he owned two computers (a PC desktop and a Macbook Pro). He also is a photographer and video game enthusiast.

In short, Adam is very knowledgeable concerning most of the products that the retailer sells. He is also an honor student, well known for his technical and people skills.

The manager was friendly and encouraging, stating that they currently had several openings at the store. She directed Adam to the company’s online application process, which included a “personality test.” If all went well with the application, the manager would call Adam the next day to arrange an interview.

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The Sweet Song of the Shy Child

Posted on February 19, 2012 by

Parenting the shy or anxious child is a series of exercises in letting go. We want to protect our child from the difficulties and pain of the world, yet we know that meeting those challenges is what gives our child the strength to succeed. (To read more, click here.)

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Getting Over Stage Fright: Becoming an Effective Public Speaker

Posted on February 19, 2012 by

Comedian Jerry Seinfield talks about a survey where people were asked about their greatest fears. Death came in at number two, while public speaking was number one. As Jerry put it: “So, if you’re at a funeral, you’re better off being in the casket than giving the eulogy.” How do you feel when you step up to speak or perform? To read more, click here.

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Joining a Support Group When You’re Afraid to Speak

Posted on February 12, 2012 by

The notion of “connecting with community” can be daunting for people with social anxiety.  That’s why it’s extra impressive how Marla Genova has not only started support groups for people with social anxiety disorder, but she’s built them to the point where they are growing and thriving.

To read the full story, click here.

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Shy Girl, Brave Woman

Posted on January 27, 2012 by

As a psychologist, I am frequently inspired by the resiliency people display in everyday life. Through the Internet and the power of social networking, I have met amazing people whose stories need to be told. Let me introduce you to Marla Genova, a woman who has worked hard to confront her own social anxiety, and ultimately, help others do the same.

I first learned about Marla upon reading about how she went to Disneyworld and wore a t-shirt that boldly stated: “ASK ME ABOUT MY SOCIAL ANXIETY.” I had to know more about someone who could confront her own anxiety with such boldness and humor!  She agreed to share her story. To read more, click here.

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Quiet Excitement

Posted on January 23, 2012 by

This week, I feel like a little girl at Christmas, anticipating opening the gift I have been waiting for. Susan Cain’s book, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, comes out January 24. I have already ordered a hard copy and will also be downloading a copy onto my Kindle.

I first became acquainted with Susan through another shyness blog, and I loved her website. I have read her work in the New York Times and in Oprah’s magazine. Susan articulates exceptionally well the importance of introverts and shy people. Her book will contribute greatly to the discussion of how our society loses out by marginalizing quiet people. She argues poignantly that introverts can be powerful leaders with great ideas.

In honor of the launch of her book, I have compiled a list of famous quotes that point to the power of quiet:  To read more, click here.

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