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Comment on Parenting the Shy Child: A Look at Labels by amy

amy — Fri, 24 Feb 2012 14:10:11 +0000

A great article I empathize it very much. I have been shy as a girl and usually starts talking very much when I already know the person. I remember being told that I was shy and it made me even more shy. I wish my parents were able to think about this. But either way, school helped me bring my confidence with the help of the teachers and friends. I am now not the shy girl I used to be.

Comment on From Quiet to Queen: Kayla’s Story by Natalie

Natalie — Mon, 30 Jan 2012 21:49:24 +0000

It’s great that she overcame her shyness and quietness. And without making this story down (it’s the last thing i would do!), she isn’t a prom queen for nothing, look sure helps to get that confidence in life you need. Like a study says, the world is way friendlier towards good looking people than to unattractive ones. I wish it wouldn’t be like that but it is exactly like that.

Comment on Shy and Popular? Depends on Where You Live… by Chad

Chad — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 13:24:58 +0000

“I think this whole discussion is BS.” .. exactly what i feel most of the times with modern “talking”.
As for me i have two extremes: i am a great charismatic talker when its about discussions that have a purpose, that interest me and where no formalities exist. While when “talking” is a must and is a “corporate fake style talking” i get very uncomfortable because am very straight forward and don’t like to talk if i don’t feel like am interested.
let me share a story, once i was working with a team on a project, and we had to meet continuously with the stakeholder. Some team members were the “loud” type, the kind of ” i can do everything, and i am what you are looking for ” people. The meetings discussions were as you said “BS” and were repetitive, not meaningful and very “politician style” oriented. Those “loud” members in addition to presenting themselves always as perfect and ” in control” , were always telling the stakeholder what he’d like to hear. Personally, i was quiet 99% of the meetings because i refused to speak just cause “i have to” and that which makes me nervous. I received some comments from these “loud” members about me being quiet in the meetings, and as if they were the role model to follow. So , there was a very important task in the project (critical one) which was sthg never made before, and very hard to accomplish. I gave the team my opinion on how to accomplish it, but they refused it claiming some of the members had more experience in the field..
we kept trying/failing trying/failing during several months, until they gave up… I told them i’d like to be the leader of this task, and they “accepted” so that i’d be the one to get blamed from the stakeholder if it doesn’t work. I told them i wont be joining their meetings anymore and i’d focus more on acting than talking…
In one month, i finished ALONE what couldn’t be done in abt 7 months. I gave it to the stake holder , and now it is being used.

Conclusion: A lot of “loud” talkers will tell you what you want to hear, but when it comes to act , only the “quiet’ knows what they’re doing.
And wt is sad is that the corporate interviewing system seeks the “loud” type of people thinking they know what they are doing.

thanks, keep up the good work:)

Comment on Parenting the Shy Child: A Look at Labels by QuietGirlLoudCity

QuietGirlLoudCity — Sun, 18 Dec 2011 22:10:15 +0000

This is a great post; I wish my parents knew about these things when I was little!

Comment on Rugrats as Therapy–Chuckie and the Slide by Music sheet

Music sheet — Sun, 18 Dec 2011 16:45:20 +0000

Thanks a lot for the purpose of discussing in addition to producing my family it.

Comment on The Shyness Project: An Inspirational Interview with Brittany by Pocket Perspectives

Pocket Perspectives — Sat, 17 Dec 2011 19:45:10 +0000

Learning to use my own “voice” has been an ongoing process…often difficult…but I’m progressing. I shared some of the pages I made to help and encourage myself in that area by putting them on my own blog. http://pocketperspectives.wordpress.com/plant-flowers/i-have-a-voice/ The youtube video is in that link but here it is directly… created to encourage myself, but then shared with others… no strategies in it, just encouragement to try http://www.youtube.com/user/pocketperspectives#p/u/1/DAlktS-wCGc
Isn’t it remarkable that Brittany is progressing the way that she is…at 18 years old…I am sooooo happy for her… I’m 63 and still learning…but progressing, too, so that’s good. Blogging has also really helped me…difficult for the first 4 months, but easier now.

Comment on Spoiler Alerts: The Necessity of Uncertainty by The Hook

The Hook — Sat, 17 Dec 2011 19:24:20 +0000

Great closing!

Comment on The Shyness Project: An Inspirational Interview with Brittany by The Hook

The Hook — Sat, 17 Dec 2011 19:23:28 +0000

I’ve been following Brittany’s progress for some time as well, and you’re right, she’s a special gal!
Great post!

Comment on From Quiet to Queen: Kayla’s Story by The Hook

The Hook — Sat, 17 Dec 2011 19:21:46 +0000

Beautiful tale of tragedy and untimately, triumph!

Comment on Why You Should Make Mistakes on Purpose by The Hook

The Hook — Sat, 17 Dec 2011 19:20:54 +0000

Fortunately, i don’t have to try very hard to make a mistake!